"Maybe," Gen said, eyebrows raised, "just, maybe - you should give yourself permission to just be a tiny bit selfish."

He shrugged his shoulders. "Think of it this way. We've only got so much time, so much energy, so much ... ability to just do, right? If you're constantly going - if you take no time to recharge and care for yourself - you'll be too burnt out to help anybody."

Holding up a finger like he's making a point, "So if you're too exhausted this time - give yourself a chance to regroup. And you'll be able to tackle it next time."